Četiri sporazuma

Večeras sam razgovarao s prijateljem, Jules. Jules je iznio nekoliko mudrosti iz knjige Don Miguel Ruiz i Don Jose Luis Ruiz, Četiri sporazuma.

Kao i kod većine savjeta, prilično je osnovni, ali ga je teško primijeniti u praksi. Čini se da naš svakodnevni život gura našu sposobnost da takve stvari zadržimo na vrhu. Možda, budući da su samo četiri, to ipak možemo postići!

1. Budite besprijekorni uz svoju riječ

Govorite s integritetom. Reci samo ono što misliš. Izbjegavajte koristiti riječ da biste govorili protiv sebe ili da biste ogovarali druge. Upotrijebite snagu svoje riječi u smjeru istine i ljubavi.

2. Ne uzimajte ništa osobno

Ništa drugo ne radi zbog tebe. Ono što drugi kažu i čine projekcija je vlastite stvarnosti, vlastitog sna. Ako ste imuni na mišljenja i postupke drugih, nećete biti žrtva nepotrebne patnje.

3. Ne pravite pretpostavke

Pronađite hrabrosti da postavite pitanja i izrazite ono što stvarno želite. Komunicirajte s drugima što je jasnije moguće kako biste izbjegli nesporazume, tugu i dramu. Sa samo jednim ovim sporazumom možete u potpunosti transformirati svoj život.

4. Uvijek se potrudi

Vaše najbolje će se mijenjati iz trenutka u trenutak; bit će drugačije kad budete zdravi za razliku od bolesnih. U bilo kojem slučaju, jednostavno potrudite se, i izbjeći ćete samoprosuđivanje, zlostavljanje i žaljenje.

Fantastičan savjet. Mislim da sam # 1 dolje, # 4 skoro stigao ... # 2 dobro sam jer sam siguran u sebe. # 3 treba malo posla! Hvala Jules na prenošenju ovoga! Moram obaviti nešto posla.

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    Doug. Sounds like an interesting book. Have your read it through? Worth the price of admission or did you summarize the jewels from it here in your post?

    Definitely four attributes to strive toward. And, then directly relate to blogging.

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      I have read this book several times and it was life changing the first time, life affirming every other time. While the principles are simple, to actually put into practice (deeply) in our personal and professional lives takes discipline and a continued desire towards self-improvement. Now, while I am certainly more concerned with the personal side and this blog of Doug’s addresses the more professional/technical side of life, our circle of influence is as great as we want it to be. The four agreements are expanded upon within the book and it explains a much deeper meaning to each agreement.

      The beginning of the book drags a bit, but once it gets into the “meat” of it, I was transfixed…and then transformed. If everyone could apply these principles, we bi change the world.

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      It is true that this is very hard. It might help to think of it this way. No one can make you be anything that you aren’t. So, if you call me names or tell me something bad about my self, it really should have no bearing on how I look at myself – IF I am secure in my person. Therein lies the problem. We allow other’s perception of us to affect the way we perceive ourselves, rather than just accepting ourselves or changing the things we don’t like simply b/c we want to. What you believe usually comes to fruition. Think positive things about yourself and you will like yourself; think negative things and you will not like yourself.

      Yes, I have been accused of being Pollyanna’ish……but it is a guiding factor in my life and one that is serving me well, especially today. 🙂

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        great advice jule 🙂

        thanks a lot !

        Saying bad things on internet is relatively easy. Just type in anything you want in the comments box …..

        People don’t even think about what effect it might have on the blogger …. 🙁

        “Think positive things about yourself and you will like yourself; think negative things and you will not like yourself.”

        I am definately going to follow your advice 🙂

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    I can’t recommend this book enough – it’s an easy read, and worth reading again from time to time to get your mind back on straight. This book was given to me several years ago when I was going through a “rough patch” and it helped me pick myself back up. #2 Don’t Take Anything Personally has had the greatest effect on me by helping my sense of self.

    Good recommendation, Doug!

    Marty Bird
    Divlje ptice neograničeno
    http://www.wbu.com

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    Actually if you are violating agreement #2 or #3 you are also not being Impeccable With Your Word (agreement #1).

    If you are taking something personally then you are making an expression that goes against your self emotionally. This is not being impeccable. If you are making (creating in your mind ) assumptions that lead to disharmony then you are not being impeccable either.

    The impeccable expression of your word also requires that you make assumptions impeccably, and that you don’t make expressions that cause you to take things personally.

    At first read it appears that Being Impeccable is easier than the others. When you study the finer points you find out that living agreements #2,3, and 4 lead you to achieve Impeccability.

    More detail about this at http://pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2007/01/19/be-impeccable-with-your-word/

    Sretno,

    Gary

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